Most coaches think they’re here to learn how to help others. But what surprises them most… is how much they change in the process. I was reminded of this during a recent coaching session with a husband who wanted to show up better for his wife and kids. He told me they were “making him angry.” He thought our work together would help him fix them. But what actually happened was that he started to see himself differently. We uncovered how focusing on things he couldn’t control was fueling that...
9 days ago • 1 min read
There was a time I tried to do it all by myself. I was convinced that if I just worked harder, took more action, and forced my way through, I’d finally figure it out. When it came to my health, I designed my own programs, tracked everything, tried to “out-discipline” my habits. And every time I slipped, I doubled down. More action. More pressure. More isolation. Then came shingles, followed by an autoimmune. Now I'm not here to scare you, but I am here to show you the path I'd avoid if I were...
12 days ago • 2 min read
Good afternoon Reader! I want to tell you about Lisa. When we first started working together, even something like calling to order pizza made her nervous. Now she’s coaching. Training. Leading powerful conversations in front of rooms full of people. And here’s the part most people miss... That transformation didn’t come from a big, flashy breakthrough. It came from showing up every week. One small step at a time. Even when it didn’t feel exciting. That’s how trust gets built. That’s how...
16 days ago • 1 min read
Good morning Reader! When I first started coaching inside the Dad Edge, I found myself surrounded by high-level leaders and coaches. People who had built serious businesses and success. And I couldn’t help but wonder if I even belonged there. I’d catch myself thinking about what I was going to say next. Whether I sounded smart. Whether I was guiding someone the wrong way. And the more I tried to get it right, the less impact I had. It wasn’t until I let go of trying to perform that things...
19 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, This week, I’m celebrating the coaches who chose to lean in — even when it wasn’t “the right time.” They didn’t wait for things to calm down. They didn’t wait to feel ready. They showed up anyway. I know you've done the same. And in the process, they’ve already started to experience the benefits of becoming a coach — not just for others, but for themselves. Coaching isn’t just something you do when life is easy. It’s something you become through the hard moments. Because when you...
21 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, This is a question I ask a lot when someone feels stuck: “Why are you choosing to believe that?” The first time I asked it, it caught my client off guard. He had just said, “I’m exhausted.” So I asked him that question. We slowed down, and I showed him how that thought — “I’m exhausted” — was actually creating more exhaustion. He wasn’t lying. He felt tired. But when he saw how his focus was fueling it, he took his power back. That’s what brave questions do — they interrupt old...
23 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, I still remember the first time a coach asked me this: “How could you do both — in a way where one makes the other even better?” At first, I froze. My brain immediately said, You can’t. But my coach didn’t rush in to fill the silence. He just held space. And in that silence… something shifted. I realized the answer wasn’t outside of me — it was already there. It just needed space to surface. That question changed how I led at LAPD and how I showed up for my family. It helped me...
26 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, I’ve been thinking about something as we get ready to kick off this next round of certification on Saturday. There’s a moment every coach faces — usually quietly, when no one’s watching: Am I dabbling… or becoming? Dabbling looks like: – Learning, but not fully stepping in – Coaching, but second-guessing every move – Feeling called, but waiting to feel “ready” Becoming looks different. It’s not about having more answers — it’s about choosing to lead while you’re still growing....
29 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, When most people think about coaching, they think about tools. A framework. A script. A list of questions. And yes—tools matter. But tools aren’t what make you powerful. I learned this the hard way. Early in my coaching, I kept collecting “more.” More trainings. More books. More certifications. But every time I showed up with a client, I still felt unsure. I was busy doing coaching instead of being a coach. What shifted everything for me was realizing that the most powerful...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read